Here are 6 questions to help you achieve behavioral change (after you say or do something you later regret): 1. Why did I react the way I did? 2. Did my reaction help me or harm me? 3. How does this situation fit into the big picture? That is, how will I feel about it in hour? A week? A year? 4. What may I have misunderstood or be getting wrong, especially in the heat of the moment? 5. What would I change if I could do it again? 6. What could I say to myself next time that would help me think more clearly? There's no microwave method to success. The key is not to skip through these questions quickly, rather, to take your time, ponder, and develop an action plan. Read more in my new book, "EQ Applied: The Real-World Guide to Emotional Intelligence":  https://amzn.to/2sxFLho …see more